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The Key To Lasting Change

Are you ready for change to happen in your marriage? Do you wonder how to find the key to lasting change? Read on!

It’s the new year, and it’s always around this time of year that we strive change things for the better. It’s a time of renewal…a new year! But renewal requires change.

Things can’t stay the same AND be renewed…it doesn’t work that way.

If we want things to be different, we have to change them.

Nothing changes if nothing changes.

Sit on that statement for a minute. No, really. Read it again. Nothing changes if nothing changes.

Does your heart long for your marriage to be better?

Do you hope your spouse will have more time for you this year?

Are you sick of running the rat race each week with your family’s commitments?

Do you long for time to yourself?

Have you been dreaming of a deeper understanding of God’s plan for your life?

Nothing changes if nothing changes.

Many times, when we desire change, we are waiting for someone else to change. We don’t usually focus on how WE can change something. It’s SO much easier to see how someone else can change.

Guess what? You can’t change someone else.

You can only change YOU.

If you want change in the new year, you need to make change.

Yep. You.

I am living proof of this concept. I spent the first half of my marriage with a laundry list of ways my husband needed to change.

If only he did this. If only he would that. Why doesn’t he do this? Why did he do that?

What did that list get me? An ego and a broken marriage. That’s what it got me.

It was not until I was willing to change that change began to occur.

Nothing changes if nothing changes.

Does this mean your spouse or your circumstance doesn’t need to change?

No. They are not off the hook, especially if there are genuine issues that need to be changed and resolved. But you cannot force that change in them. You can only make the change in YOU first, and pray that God will help them to see it.

Change is contagious. When you make a positive change, those around you will see it and, if it truly is a GOOD change, they will want to be a part of it.

BUT…nothing changes if nothing changes. (Do you sense a theme?)

Change is hard. It can be scary. However, change can be amazing! There’s a great quote, “Be the change you want to see,” and it hits the nail on the head. If you want to see change in your life, seek God’s guidance, humble yourself and be the change you want to see.