Why Did I Cheat on My Spouse?
Maybe you never imagined you’d be the kind of person asking this question. And yet here you are. Maybe you still care about your spouse deeply.Maybe you feel numb.Maybe you’ve told yourself, “I love them… I’m just not in love with them anymore.” You didn’t wake up one day thinking, “I hope I blow up […]
Why An Affair Can Feel Like Love
Recently, a hurting wife asked us a question we hear more often than people realize. “Is it normal that my husband believes he loves this woman, even though so much of this affair is completely out of character for him?” If you’ve ever asked something like that, we want you to know first and foremost […]
Walking With Them: 9 Ways Friends Can Be Helpful, Not Hurtful, When a Couple Faces Infidelity
When a couple you love is facing infidelity, your heart aches for them. Maybe you want to help, but you have no idea how. You see the pain in their eyes, the shock in their voices, the despair in their bodies. And if you’re like most friends, you wonder: What can I say? What can […]
The Power of Accountability: Biblical Insights for Affair Recovery
If you’re reading this, chances are you’re grappling with the devastation of infidelity, a pain that cuts deep and leaves wounds that seem impossible to heal. We understand that pain intimately, for we too have walked that agonizing road. But amidst the wreckage,we recognized our need for a critical component to healing: accountability. Friend, we […]
The Impact of Infidelity on Children: 6 Ways to Support your Kids
Infidelity in a marriage is a deeply painful experience, not only for the betrayed spouse but also for innocent bystanders–the children. While we didn’t have children yet when we experienced the pain of infidelity in our marriage, nearly all the couples we guide do have children. So, we understand the intricate dynamics and the profound […]
Patience in Affair Recovery: How long does healing truly take?
In the aftermath of infidelity, the journey toward healing can feel like an endless road, filled with uncertainties and questions. “How long, O Lord?” cried the psalmist in Psalm 13, echoing the cries of our hearts as we grapple with pain and betrayal. It’s okay to ask God “how long” as we navigate the complexities […]
Managing Expectations: 7 Realistic Goals for Healing after Infidelity
I don’t know about you, but it seemed nearly impossible to set realistic goals for healing after infidelity. After the revelation of my husband’s affair, my brain was swirling with hundreds of thoughts, and managing expectations was not top of mind. As I sifted through the shocking confession and subsequent discussions, my first goal was […]
Debunking 5 Myths about Affair Recovery
When it comes to affair recovery, everyone’s got an opinion and there are 5 myths that come up frequently as we care for marriages divided by infidelity. During our own healing process, we had at least one person or resource spouting these 5 myths as truth. However, as a healed and thriving marriage fifteen years […]
How to Overcome Anger in Marriage After an Affair
Overcoming anger after the discovery of an affair is a topic frequently discussed with the couples we guide. The aftermath of infidelity often brings forth a myriad of emotions, and anger can be one of the most challenging to confront. When my husband’s affair was revealed, anger was my primary emotional response for weeks. It […]
Reconnecting After Infidelity: 12 Meaningful Activities for Rebuilding Trust and Intimacy
Rebuilding trust and intimacy after infidelity is a challenging journey, but it’s crucial for couples committed to reconciliation. Trust is a necessary building block for a strong, healthy marriage. In our book, The Journey to Stay, we explore several practical actions that help to build trust in a marriage divided by infidelity. We also gave […]
