A Fresh Start Is It Even Possible After Infidelity? A brand-new year is typically an opportunity for a fresh start. Most people look forward to cleaning the slate and making a fresh start with new goals and plans for the future. But, what about those of us whose past year included broken trust, betrayal,…
Is Porn Cheating? The question of whether or not pornography use is cheating on a spouse has been debated for years. When serving marriages divided by infidelity, we are asked this question frequently: Is porn cheating? Our aim in writing this article is to give you our answer, the reason for it, and…
How Are We Ever Going To Trust Again?: The 7 Elements of Rebuilding Trust After an Affair One of the most frequent questions we are asked by couples divided by infidelity is this: How are we ever going to trust again? Then, the spouse who has been betrayed will ask for very specific trust-building…
Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater? You’ve probably heard this statement several times. ‘Once a cheater, always a cheater.’ But is it true? Today, I am going to give you our thoughts on this statement, and it might not be what you expect. Infidelity nearly broke us, and now we have…
What is the difference between infidelity and adultery? (and does it even matter?) Have you ever wondered what the difference is between infidelity and adultery? There are all kinds of words used to describe unfaithfulness in marriage, many of which I prefer not to repeat. The words we receive the most questions about…
How I Helped My Husband Get Over His Girlfriend Comforting The One Who Hurt You How I helped my husband get over his girlfriend. Sigh. Even after several years, I still can’t believe I was the one most capable of comforting the very person who hurt me most. If I didn’t live it, I would…
Drastic Measures: Building Trust After The Affair A Guest Post by Steve, one who knows Are drastic measures really necessary for building trust after the affair? Short answer? Yes. Long answer? Yes. Standing in line at Panera, I snapped a photo on my phone and texted it to my wife. She responded immediately. “Thank you.”…
3 Reasons it’s Hard to End an Affair A post from Steve, one who knows. Why is it so hard to end an affair? This blog post is written to the spouse who had the affair. It’s out in the open now, you’ve said you want to work on your marriage, and you can’t understand…
Love, the Antidote to Unforgiveness. You may be saying to yourself, “How can I ever forgive?” Love, the antidote to unforgiveness, is the furthest thing from your mind. You might be in a situation that seems unforgivable. You may have experienced something so heinous, no one would ever expect you to forgive. The hurt may…
These Are The Ones Hope for a Hurting Marriage Have you wondered how one finds hope for a hurting marriage? I walked out of the auditorium doors just as one of our Easter services ended. Throngs of people streamed out shortly thereafter, with my husband just behind them. This was the third of five Easter…