The Impact of Infidelity on Children: 6 Ways to Support your Kids
Infidelity in a marriage is a deeply painful experience, not only for the betrayed spouse but also for innocent bystanders–the children. While we didn’t have children yet when we experienced the pain of infidelity in our marriage, nearly all the couples we guide do have children. So, we understand the intricate dynamics and the profound […]
Patience in Affair Recovery: How long does healing truly take?
In the aftermath of infidelity, the journey toward healing can feel like an endless road, filled with uncertainties and questions. “How long, O Lord?” cried the psalmist in Psalm 13, echoing the cries of our hearts as we grapple with pain and betrayal. It’s okay to ask God “how long” as we navigate the complexities […]
Managing Expectations: 7 Realistic Goals for Healing after Infidelity
I don’t know about you, but it seemed nearly impossible to set realistic goals for healing after infidelity. After the revelation of my husband’s affair, my brain was swirling with hundreds of thoughts, and managing expectations was not top of mind. As I sifted through the shocking confession and subsequent discussions, my first goal was […]
Debunking 5 Myths about Affair Recovery
When it comes to affair recovery, everyone’s got an opinion and there are 5 myths that come up frequently as we care for marriages divided by infidelity. During our own healing process, we had at least one person or resource spouting these 5 myths as truth. However, as a healed and thriving marriage fifteen years […]
How to Overcome Anger in Marriage After an Affair
Overcoming anger after the discovery of an affair is a topic frequently discussed with the couples we guide. The aftermath of infidelity often brings forth a myriad of emotions, and anger can be one of the most challenging to confront. When my husband’s affair was revealed, anger was my primary emotional response for weeks. It […]
Reconnecting After Infidelity: 12 Meaningful Activities for Rebuilding Trust and Intimacy
Rebuilding trust and intimacy after infidelity is a challenging journey, but it’s crucial for couples committed to reconciliation. Trust is a necessary building block for a strong, healthy marriage. In our book, The Journey to Stay, we explore several practical actions that help to build trust in a marriage divided by infidelity. We also gave […]
How to Get Over the Guilt and Shame After an Affair
I was overwhelmed by my guilt and shame after revealing my affair to my wife. At times, I thought I would never get out from under the weight of the huge mistake I had made. Especially in the beginning of our healing, I wondered if I would be tainted by the label of “cheater” for […]
Surviving Infidelity: 12 Steps to Affair Recovery
Surviving infidelity is not something anyone wants to have to do in their lifetime. Enduring the pain of betrayal is something we all prefer to avoid completely. No one stands at the altar on their wedding day expecting to one day walk into affair recovery. Yet, statistics show us that at least one in four […]
Surviving the Holidays After Infidelity: 7 Common Questions Answered
The holiday season can be a challenging time for couples after infidelity. We understand the unique struggles you may face during Christmas celebrations since we’ve experienced them ourselves. The festive cheer can feel like a stark contrast to the pain and uncertainty in your heart. If you’re facing the first Christmas since the revelation of […]
3 Warning Signs You’re Tempted to Cheat on Your Spouse (and how to avoid them!)
Are you ever tempted to cheat on your spouse? I’m pretty sure we all know that infidelity is never a good idea, but sometimes the temptation can be overwhelming. You may not even see it as temptation until you’re in the danger zone. If you’re starting to feel like straying from your relationship, it’s important […]